Day 46-Thank You and You Rock my Socks Off

Day 46-Today is day forty six in my journey of kindness. Each day I find myself considering the tapestry of human connection that exists on this great planet. When I reviewed my blog statistics I saw that it has been viewed by many international followers. Some followers are from Canada, Australia, Croatia, Germany, the Netherlands, and Malaysia. This to me is amazing. Imagine if each of these readers completed just one act of kindness which prompted another in their area to complete an act of kindness and so forth. Wow! I hope others are still being challenged and still consider doing additional acts of kindness as the year progresses. One friend, my friend Karen who went with me to see Maya Angelous on Tuesday, bought someone a chai and provided a kind and compassionate listening ear this week. Another friend of mine, Jennifer, who also contributed to rescuing an animal in an earlier post, bought supplies of paper, coloring books and markers for a local pediatric unit in her area. I love when others share their stories! This is what this journey is all about! It's about sharing kindness and showing others the world can be a warm and loving place with a focus on generosity and creating a culture of helping. My act today is a simple one. I took the time to really, truly with an open heart and out loud way to thank one of the best teachers my son has had the privilege of interacting with on a regular basis. I genuinely provided her with encouragement to keep on her path with working with small children, provided reassurance for the job that she does with my son and thanked her from the bottom of my heart for all that she does. She truly makes a difference every day and, while I feel this way every day I have not told her so openly how much I appreciate her and all that she does. If I could shout it from the mountain tops I would. In fact, I think I will thank her again on my blog :). Thank you Ms. Kathy for all that you do, all that you are and all that you provide to my son every single day. You rock my socks off and I never worry about him when I know you are with him because of your warmth, balance of limits and nurture and great care you provide him. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 219 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 45-Encouraging Words

Day 45-As I continue you journey of kindness I am trying to remember that not all acts of kindness have a monetary value. I am a service professional after all and do not have a large expendable income. As a result, as I embarked on my journey of kindness for day forty five I decided I would make a concerted effort to make positive statements and share encouraging words with each person, with whom I interacted today. As busy as my day was there were times this was difficult. Of course, I always try to say thank you and to express appreciation when others are helpful, share their ideas or give of their time to me at work. I watched as my words touched the ears of each person today and noticed that some smiled, some offered encouragement and positive statements in return and others merely accepted the words visibly unphased by the content or purpose of the message. I was again reminded that sometimes one does not get to see the fruits of one's labor but must understand that seeds of positivity are being planted. I felt particularly tired today so it took some focused effort to complete the task all day. I was rewarded at the end of the day by being able to engage in a fun game of rolling a soccer ball with my son, husband and father-in-law. It is difficult to describe the game we played but my son screamed with laughter throughout and it warmed my heart and provided us all with some much needed joy and distraction. May days I might have come home just wanting to veg out, which is really impossible with a toddler, or complete household chores, but with my focus on encouraging and being fully present with others I remembered to extend this to myself and my family as well. I was handsomely rewarded in the form of a really fun time! 220 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 44-Once in a Lifetime and an Act Comes Full Circle

Day 44-Today is day forty four in my journey of kindness. I awakened this morning and got ready for work knowing that tonight I had a special date with my friend Karen. We planned to go see Maya Angelou speak in person. I knew that there would be a crowd and I got there early. I was so early in fact that I was the first person in line. Literally, I was the first person there waiting to see her. When my friend Karen joined me the line was about fifteen deep or so and I decided to go to the back of the line so that we didn't cut in front of anyone as others had already been waiting too. When I moved my spot in line the others asked me and I told them, "It seemed unkind to let my friend cut and since the line isn't long, it's the right thing to do." I smiled and they smiled back at me. I stood there knitting and talking to my friend (if you've never knitted standing up...it's a task for sure!). Many of the ladies asked to see the scarf that I was working on and I showed it to them and even showed them how to use the special yarn I was using. One lady gave me her contact information with request that I make her two (if my husband reads this he'll kill me since I knit all the time these days). She wasn't waiting in our line and joined others in a second line waiting at a different entrance to the building. We stood and we waited...we waited and we stood. We were in the line for about three hours, a little over actually, and as we realized all of the students of the college were admitted first and few other special groups there would be little to no room left for the public. Several of the older black ladies ahead of me turned and then talked with one another. They looked back at me and said, "Excuse me, but you were so kind and did the right thing by coming to the back of the line with your friend and we don't think you should miss out on seeing her (Maya Angelou) because you did the right thing." The group of people parted like the red sea and beckoned my friend and me to take passage through them to the front of the line again. I was speechless and hesitant. They saw how hesitant I was and one lady took me by the arm in a grandmotherly fashion and pushed me to the front. Little did I realize when I did it what a profound impact that act of kindness would have on others. As a result of their kindness, my friend Karen and I got in to see Maya Angelou. It was a once in a lifetime and profound opportunity. I literally sat on the edge of my seat the entire lecture soaking up her warmth, wisdom and humor. I was moved and touched by her words and the kindness of the strangers who gave me entrance when they could have thought of only themselves and their own ability to be in attendance. As I took my seat, initially, I saw the ladies file in behind me and thanked them again. When Karen and I left we enjoyed a late dinner and talked about the mob outside of the lecture venue and how badly people behaved yelling and pushing and how grateful we were for the kindness shown to us after we had extended kindness to others. Tonight Maya Angelou said, and I'm paraphrasing, "when you are presented with a good opportunity to do good and to do something kind....do it...say yes." She went on to challenge that we should all be a rainbow for someone else. I feel like that is what I am doing every day on this mission of mine. I am working to bring joy and care to someone every single day. Today was an amazing reminder of how doing the right thing brings good energy. 221 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 43-The Sniffles

Day 43-Today is the forty third day in my journey of kindness. This time of year cold and flu symptoms seem to be everywhere and many at my work place have been impacted. A dear co-worker of mine who is kind and helpful has been plagued by such symptoms for several weeks. When I saw her today I noticed how congested she was and offered her some assistance. I told her that I had an almost full pack of Airborne Immunity Support in my desk. I left her in an office working and hustled across our campus to go and get it for her. I brought it back and gave her the package. I told her to keep the whole pack and use them as she needed. I hope that this small token will not only communicate my care for her, but will also alleviate some of her symptoms and provide her with comfort. In completing this act of kindness I reflected on the ability that we all have to help each other if the right tools and resources are available. I purchased the immunity support some time ago and had not really used much of it as I haven't been sick (*knock on wood) and it was waiting to be helpful for someone in need. I hadn't purchased it with the intention of giving it away, but as the situation presented itself I knew, in that moment, it was what was meant to be. 222 more days of kindness are you in?

Day 42-Helping Those Closest To Me

Day 42-On day 42 I decided I would target a member of my family and also help out a colleague for my acts of kindness as I am trying to remember to also impact those closest to me. On Sunday morning, although technically it was my morning of the weekend to be able to sleep in, when my son came in I quietly got up with him and left my husband sleeping soundly. I got up without disturbing him to allow him some extra sleep, although I badly wanted to sleep a bit longer myself. I spent extra time with my son, which was a bonus for me and fixed a nice breakfast for all of us. Typically, I might give my husband a hard time or complain about getting up both mornings during the weekend, but today, I brought no attention to this issue. My second act of kindness today was that I reviewed a program manual that a co-worker in a different position at work put together. He is younger in the profession and is eager to make an impact in a positive way and had conversation with me some time ago about the manual he created. I agreed to bring it home with me over the weekend to review it and to provide him with some feedback. This certainly took some time, but I was so grateful and humbled that he would be interested in the feedback I might offer. I hope that my feedback will help him with his professional development. Today I made an impact on two people I spend much time with and am reminded that small acts can go a long way to facilitating healthy and positive relationships. 223 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 41-Helping the Hungry

Day 41-Today is day forty one in my journey of kindness. Today I went sledding with my son, made chocolate chip cookies and enjoyed a fun day together. We went out to dinner and as I was sitting in the passenger seat on the way home my husband and I began to talk about how cold it might get tonight. I began to think about all of those who may be suffering a night in the cold or may not be able to afford heat. I considered those who might not have enough food to eat or to feed their children adequately and I knew what my act of kindness would be today. I went online and did some research and found a charity with a good transparency and accountability rating that provides services to families in Virginia. In particular, they provide services to those living in the Prince William area. I made a donation to provide meals for a family for one week. While it may not seem like much I thought about how much of an impact such donations could make if everyone I knew chipped in to help. All of a sudden my brain felt like it might burst as I completed the math in my head. There would be so many helped if just a few people would make donations to their local food pantry. I think we are sometimes intimidated or stop ourselves from helping others because we do not have large amounts of finances available to donate or to time to give. I'm here to tell you, a little bit goes a long way! Just give what you can and watch what good it can do. I am feeding a family for a week with a donation. I would be willing to sacrifice my morning coffee or afternoon treats that I sometimes get for my son and me to be able to do this. How often do I take for granted that my refrigerator is full and my cabinets stocked. I will think of others and will be mindful of food production and consumption. 224 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 40-Contributing to a Co-Worker

Day 40-Today is day forty in this journey of kindness. I can hardly believe that I have been at this for forty days. I think forty seems like an interesting number and has much significance to me as far as literature and sacrifice go in a metaphorical sense. Today, I completed a special act of kindness. The act for me today was that I contributed to a donation fund for one of my co-worker's to help offset medical costs. We could wear jeans if we paid a dollar to do so, and I contributed much more than that to the fund. I hope that my contribution, although small in the grand scheme of things, will be of assistance to a family in need. I was challenged by one of our office manager's when she found out about my journey of kindness as she stated, "Why shouldn't the acts of kindness start here at work?". She has also completed acts of kindness for co-workers and I hope the momentum will continue to grow. My plan all along was to start with acts of kindness in my own community and then to move out to the larger world and greater universe :). Getting back to my roots, so to speak, felt good today. 225 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 39-Chew on That

Day 39-I spent day thirty nine in an almost eleven hour training. It was a stimulating and educational day, but to say I was exhausted by the end of it would be a gross understatement of my condition. During the training I met many professionals as I only knew the trainer before the training began. I lady sitting next to me had traveled a distance to attend and throughout the morning I noticed that she was coughing pretty regularly. At first, I thought maybe her throat was dry but as the training progressed, I realized she was continuing to have small bouts of coughing. I searched through my bag and found a piece of gum and silently handed it to her. She looked at me a little puzzled and I smiled and quietly offered, "I thought this might be helpful." She looked from the gum back to me and then smiled and said thank you. The training was crammed into one day with some extensive follow up planned as a result of impending snow tomorrow and we had to eat boxed lunches during the training to get all of our time. Once we had all finished our lunches I again went into my bag and, this time, produced the entire pack of gum and passed it around offering every participant a piece of peppermint gum. I smiled and told them that I thought I had read somewhere that peppermint helps with concentration and as today would be a long day of training thought it might be a nice after lunch and stimulating treat. Many accepted the offer and I hope appreciated the act of kindness. Taking care of those around us and sharing what we have is an act of service to others. I was raised in a very giving family and this is a part of myself I had put on a shelf as I had felt taken advantage of and had been met with cynical responses from others at times. I am reminded that others may not understand our kindness or believe it to be genuine, and we should be kind anyway. 226 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 38-Letter to Jail

Day 38-Today is the thirty eighth day along the path of my year of kindness. I received notification via social media that contained a mailing address for a dear person who is currently incarcerated due to his involvement in a tragic accident. He has nine more months to serve and could use some encouragement was the message. This person is not only kind, but his life has been marked by hardships and emotional upheaval. At times, I can imagine his life experiences may have felt overwhelming and insurmountable. He has always been thoughtful, kind and has a courageous spirit. To this end, I offered my son the ability to be engaged as well. He drew a picture and I wrote a letter on the back that I hope will bring some warmth and caring to this dear man. I presented in my writing humor and encouragement as he continues his time in jail. I told him about the backwards handprints and how my little guy certainly marches to the beat of his own drum and does things in his own special way. It was reported that these fun stories have brought him much enjoyment and I wanted to continue this chain of kindness for him. Many times I have observed that in one is most in need others may not be able to be present. This may be due to their own emotional unavailability or difficulty managing big and difficult feelings. Today I send the message I'll stand by you and uplift you in your time of need. 227 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 37-Leaving Space for Others

Day 37-Today is day thirty seven in my journey of kind acts. Today in our area it was the coldest it has been all winter. We have been sort of spoiled with mild and unseasonably warm weather. Many weekends we have enjoyed temperatures that were so warm we could play outside in short sleeves or light long sleeve tops. In a way, today felt even colder as a result of experiencing these warmer temperatures thus far in the winter season. As I hurried out the door this morning and strapped my son into his carseat I felt as though I might freeze before I could get into the car myself. Luckily my husband was kind enough to start my car for me on his way to his own vehicle before leaving for work. Also, it is important that you know, I am a bit of wimp when it comes to cold weather. My car registered the temperature as a frigid 20 degrees...brrrrrr. As I pulled into the parking lot at my son's daycare I noticed that at the front of the building where parents park to drop off their children there was only one space left. This meant that others would have to drive around to the back of the building and walk around in order to gain entrance. I considered this as I turned off my blinker and began to creep across the lot. I made a quick decision. I looked into the rearview and explained to my son what I was doing. I said, "Hey buddy. There is only one space left close to the door and we are going to leave it for another family to use. When we park I am going to put your hat and coat on and we will walk quickly to the door." He asked me if we were leaving the space for someone with a baby quick to point out that he is a big boy and would be able to walk. This journey of kindness has included an interesting parallel path for my son. That part of this journey feels really amazing. I could have thought about my own comfort and that of my son. While we were not really in distress due to walking in the cold we were certainly uncomfortable. In order to live with others we must consider the bigger picture of how our choices impact others. 228 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 36-Donation For Missions

Day 36-Today is day thirty six in my journey of kindness. That means that officially I am out of the 300's and into the 200's! It feels like a milestone today. I have been at this now for thirty six days and each day brings a new task and act of kindness for me to carry out and I wonder, where this path will lead me. Already I feel more at peace and more connected to others than I have in some time. It is interesting how doing for others can change you and your perception. The energy has a different feel to it and I am feeling more like my bubbly self this winter than I typically do this time of year. I feel like this journey has definitely provided food for my soul and spirit and has nourished me in a way that I was missing. In short, it's been pretty amazing. Today, in Roanoke, Virginia, a place I used to live, there is a group of people gathering at a local Mexican Restaurant to hold a fund raiser. This is no ordinary fundraiser but is designed to garner donations to sponsor a missions trip to Guatemala. I received notification of the fundraiser via social network and decided that although I could not attend in person, I could still contribute. No matter one's beliefs it is hard to argue with others going out into the world to create a positive impact through acts of caring and service. Although it was a small donation, all that could be afforded at this time, I hope it will make an impact and provide some help towards the trip. I am not affiliated with the church and it is not where my husband, son and I attended when we lived in Roanoke, but my son attended the daycare of the church and they loved and nurtured him during his time away from us while we worked. It is a loving and caring group and I hope that they will bring the same cheerfulness and love to the children in Guatemala that they did for my son. I know they will go out into the world and make a difference by spreading their happiness through service. I wish them safe travels and a lifetime experience. 229 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 35-Friends and Food

Day 35-Today is the thirty fifth day in my journey of kindness. It has been a nice day. I spent all day enjoying the nice weather with my son, took him for a treat and spent time with my husband. We all took a walk together this afternoon. I am reminded today how fortunate I am to have such a loving and sweet little family. Family are not just those who are connected to us by blood, but may also be those with whom we have close relationships, who support us and love us without reservation. My friend Shannon, not the one in San Francisco (but I do love her too), is one of these people. She is an adopted family member to me and is such a kindred spirit. I feel so fortunate to be able to call her friend. She is kind and thoughtful and is always there when I need her. She validates my feelings even if I am being completely irrational because she loves me enough to do so. My husband cooked a beautiful dinner for us and we had some left over. After we ate and cleaned up the dishes, I noticed how much we had left over from our dinner. I decided to pack up the food and take it over to my friend Shannon. She just recently took on a new position at work and is not only busy during the week but has many weekend obligations at this time too. I thought it would be helpful for her to have the food to enjoy for lunch or dinner tomorrow. I texted her to make sure she was home and once she confirmed she was, I scooted out the door to take her the meal. I arrived at her door, hugged her and left the meal for her to enjoy. It was nice to see her if even for just a moment. Kindness comes in many forms, one of which may be friendship. 330 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 34-Wrap Yourself in Kindness

Day 34-Today I completed a targeted act of kindness. I have been going to a massage professional who has improved the quality of my life this year. She is warm and positive and is full of encouragement when I need it. She also works with me on taking better care of myself and making time to do so, which is often a difficult task as I have three year old. A little over a month ago she told me that she felt like I "needed to write." She told me she could sense it and encouraged me to start writing but I was unsure what the writing project would look like. As I ruminated on that task I decided to start this blog. In a way, she is responsible for me beginning this written journey to accompany the acts of kindness that I had set out to do on December 17, 2012. My life is better for having her as a companion on my path. As a result, I wanted to complete an act of kindness for her today. I knit and am artistic, as you may have discovered in a previous post :) and I decided to make her a turquoise colored loop yarn scarf. It was beautiful. Turquoise to me seems to be a very healing color and I decided that the yarn was perfect for her when I saw it as I see her as a healer of both the emotional and the physical. When I arrived for my session today she greeted me as she always does. I smiled and told her "I have something for you today" as I pulled the scarf from my bag. She took it, ran it through her hands and then stepped forward and hugged me. She really hugged me like someone who has care for another does and I allowed her to do so. She thanked me and talked about the color saying "You know...I've really been drawn to blues lately...how perfect." I hope that she will enjoy this small token of my appreciation. She has made a tremendous impact in my life and I hope each time she wears the scarf she will know how special she is. 331 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 33-San Francisco

Day 33-Today is the thirty third day in my journey of kindness. Today I reflect on the gift of friendship. One of my sorority sisters, friend and bridgesmaid in my wedding, Shannon, recently moved from the east coast all the way out to San Francisco. She is a free spirit and is full of warmth, light and compassion. I had not intended my act of kindness to be for her today in particular, however it just sort of happened that way. Let me explain. I was introduced to a new art activity today called Zen tangles and I went to the craft store after work and picked up some supplies in order to try out the "new to me" method. I really got into it. I filled the page with designs and noticed that it began to take on a life of its own. Instead of me controlling the artwork I allowed it to flow through me and come alive on the page. As I neared completion of the piece I realized that it wasn't for me, but was for my friend. I noticed the way it came together and knew in an istant the piece was meant for her all along. As a result, I left a small space at the top to write her a short letter and I will put it into the mail tomorrow. I texted her tonight to tell her about the piece and to expect it at the beginning of next week. I hope it will bring her some happiness and she will know that she is loved when she receives it. I love her and am grateful to call her friend. She is compassionate and brave and although she is far away I hope this act of kindness will close the distance between us. I found today that the act of kindness chose me. 332 more days of kindness...are you in?

The Recap of Events So Far

So I promised that I would give an update every now and again to let you all know how things are going and how many people have been impacted by acts of kindness. I began my acts of kindness on December 17, 2012, in a response to the horrible tragedy at Sandyhook Elementary School. I decided that I would combat the evil that occurred on that day with rays of light and acts of kindness to help remember that there are helpers, kindness and gentle spirits everywhere. I wanted to bring some light to the dark days that seem to be happening all too frequently and garner so much media attention. So on December 17, 2012, full of excitement and anxiety I set off on my journey. It started with a tray of sticky buns and thirty two days later this is how it has unfolded. As I am able to track it, I have directly impacted 49 people with acts of kindness and two animals. This number does not take into account the workers who have delivered items that I have sent or others with whom I have shared this mission, such as workers at the UPS store, the salon where I donated my hair, the clerks, or other service professionals that have aided me in providing or delivering items. My blog has had a total of 1,622 views. Wow! I hope those reading are challenged to do their own little acts along the way and will join in with sharing what they have done. A total of nine friends and family members have shared with me their own stories or acts of kindness to be shared on my blog. In about a month, 49 peopleand 2 animals have been provided with kindness by me and 9 others have joined in...where will this journey end? I am encouraged and humbled by the acts of others. My year of acts of kindness is picking up steam...are you in?

Day 32-Teacher Appreciation

Day 32-Today is day 32 in my journey of kindness. Forecasted for today was snow in our area and the daycare for my son announced when I dropped him off that they would be closing early. Of course, this was mildly inconvenient as I needed to continue working despite the possibility of inclement weather. I spent the day working, completing my tasks and preparing for my departure to retrieve my son a few minutes early and then return to working as needed. As I packed up to pick up my little guy I remembered that I had purchased and intended to gift several boxes of Girl Scout Cookies. I quickly tucked them into my purse and headed out into the cold rain. It is still raining here and the prediction was that it would quickly become snow by the early evening. I quickly scooted to my car and got in careful to keep the boxes dry and the cookies in good shape. As I drove I listened to the sound of the rain on my car in silence. Even though I am missing the sun I tried to be mindful and grateful for the rain as we have really needed it in our area. I thought about all of those who might benefit from the nourishment provided to the Earth in this way. Again ever mindful of the connections amongst us as creatures on this planet of ours. When I pulled into the daycare dismissal was in full tilt given the bad weather predicted to occur. I again tucked the boxes away, but this time into my jacket to protect them from the elements. I checked into the building and made my way to my son's classroom. Upon entering the room I was greeted by three workers who smiled and welcomed me into the space. I pulled out the cookies and said, "These are for you and I hope you will enjoy them. It's just a little treat I hope to brighten this rainy day!" They smiled and readily accepted them with gratitude. I greatly appreciate the care and nurture that is provided to my son by this staff while he is away from me. This small token is not nearly enough thanks for all that they do, but I hope it will brighten their day and encourage them in knowing that they are appreciated. 333 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 31-Candy for a Co-Worker

Day 31-On day thirty one I was aware of those around me. It has been raining for three days and we have had no real sunlight to speak of during that time. As a result I think we are all feeling a little funky, tired and a little out of sorts. By the end of the day today everyone was talking about how tired we all were. When I walked by the office of one of my co-workers I saw her sitting at her desk, head in hand and looking tired. I decided I would give her a little pick me up and provide her with a little treat to help brighten the cold rainy day. I went into my office and opened a bag of chocolate truffles. I picked up a handful and while she was on the phone I snuck into her office. I placed the candies on her desk and she caught my eye. She smiled and said "thank you" quietly. I gently placed my hand on her arm and said "enjoy the little treat." As I move through this journey I am challenged every day to make others' days a little brighter, to offer a little cheer and spread a little happiness. Acts of kindness don't have to be large in order to be profound. There is so much value in noticing another person and sending the message that they are important and valued. We can do this in so many ways. For example, on rainy days like today I make sure to turn my wipers off when I go through drive thrus, for things like my coffee of course :), in order to prevent splashing of the workers. I had a person yesterday thank me for this gesture and say "Do you know how many people don't think to do that...thank you!" Be mindful and empathic and make the world a better place...challenge accepted and I am trying. 334 more days of kindness are you in?

Day 30-Rainy Weather and Recap to Come :)

Day 30-Today is day thirty in this journey of kindness. I have been on this journey and completing acts of kindness for thirty days without interruption. It takes approximately thirty days for something to become a habit and this challenge is now a solid part of my routine. One of the most interesting things that has occurred is how easily others share their own stories of kindness. For example, today a co-worker brought lunch for three other co-workers. To hear her experience in doing this act, experiencing the appreciative response and suprised reaction by the recipients certainly brought some emotional sunshine to the wet, cold and rainy day we are having today! My best friend's little girl told me at dinner tonight that she is also growing her hair in order to be able to donate it to make wigs for other kids who may be battling cancer. She is inspiring! She is so thoughtful and has such a kind heart and is only seven years old. I asked her if I can come with her when she donates her hair to take a picture and post about it on my blog. She smiled but told me she would have to think about it. I hope she will let me :). My act of kindness today was a fun one. Today, to say it is rainy is an understatement. It has poured down for the better part of the day, the ground is saturated and pools are formed across the roadways and in the grassy areas. Where I work we have to cross the grounds multiple times to move between buildings and to complete tasks throughout the day. As a result, one needs a sturdy pair of rainboots and an umbrella on a day like today. This morning I realized a co-worker did not have an umbrella and I had an extra in my desk as I had brought one from home to take my son from the car to daycare and to get into the office building as well. When I realized she did not have an umbrella, I gave her one of mine. I didn't give it to her to borrow mind you, but to keep, to have and to use on a regular basis. She smiled and was appreciative and a little reluctant to take it. After much insisting, she decided to keep it. I hope she is provided with a little sunshine of remembering the act of kindness each time she uses it. I also ordered Girl Scout cookies today and may give them to another person when I receive them as an additional act of kindness. Wow! They just keep coming. I know I promised a recap today, but I ran out of time to compile all of the acts today so I will have to post it at a later date and will keep you all posted. Stay tuned! 335 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 29-Kid Kharma

Day 29-Today is day twenty nine in my kindness journey. I am so fortunate to have a lovely family with a sweet little sidekick. When I picked my son up from school today we headed off to run an errand. While at the store he asked me if he could have a small car. The car that he picked out was a typical hotwheel car and I talked to him about an idea for an act of kindness today. We decided to buy an extra car of the kind that he picked out and leave it at the register with the clerk with the request that the clerk pass the car along to the next child who came through that particular line that might enjoy it. Owen was excited as we approached the belt to put the items on and asked if I could pick him up so that he could see the cars journey towards the clerk together. When it was our turn (we had to wait a while) the clerk began to total our items. As she prepared to put all the cars in the bag I stopped her. I explained to her this mission that I am on of completing acts of kindness and "paying it forward." She smiled. She said, "I love that idea!" and "I want to give you something!" while she grinned at my son. She reached behind her register and pulled a sticker off of a sticker sheet and gave it to Owen. She agreed to pass the car along and to share with the parent the reason the child would receive it. I hope the parent will take up the challenge and keep the movement going, but I understand if it is too much for them to do. I love getting Owen in on the action :). As we left the store he looked at me, smiled and asked me to pick him up. He hugged me tightly around my neck and said, "I hope he likes it mommy. That was kind." The lessons Owen is learning through this project are invaluable. 336 more days of kindness are you in?

Day 28-Go Ahead

Day 28-(posted late) On day 28 I was battling a cold and not feeling well. I put my son to bed and curled up with him after reading a bedtime story and fell asleep. As a result, I didn't get a chance to post, so I am posting late. My act of kindness for day 28 was one that happened with a practice in patience for me. I had to go out to the grocery store to pick up a few things. I hadn't been feeling well but was mostly tired and no longer coughing or sneezing. As I shopped I spent much time stopping and waiting for others who were obviously in a hurry. As a rule, I try not to be in a rush in the grocery store because that only results in feelings of frustration and forgotten items. As I approached the checkout lanes with my few little items I was aware of a lady who was in my personal space. As you know from my day 2 post, I am not a fan of people in my personal space with whom I don't have a relationship. When I noticed her I stopped walking. She in turn stopped walking. It was clear she was racing to get ahead of me and I just watched her for a moment. I took a step forward and she tried to race around me again. When I stopped, again, she stopped. I took a step and she took a step. I started to feel frustrated. I was clearly trying to let her go around me to get ahead of me but she wasn't doing it. I took a deep breath and offered to allow her to go ahead of me when I really wanted to make a smarty pants comment about her nearly running over me and being in such a hurry. Instead I controlled my temper, which was difficult since I was so tired, and insisted that she go ahead of me and get in line first. The kicker...she didn't even say thank you! I don't know whether my act of kindness as letting her go ahead of me or refraining from saying something decidedly unkind. Either way...I paid it forward. 337 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 27-Polar Bears and Husbands

Day 27-Today is the twenty seventh day in this journey of kindness. It has been so interesting to hear the stories of others. A sweet friend of mine named Karen gave a co-worker a coffee apparatus that she no longer uses. Her co-worker couldn't afford the machine herself and it made her day that Karen passed along the one that she had. She could have sold it or thrown it away, and instead chose to give it to someone who would both enjoy and appreciate the gift. What a thoughtful thing to do! Even though there are events that cast a shadow and things seem a little darker these days my faith in the human spirit remains. I still hold on to the hope that human beings are innately empathic and we are wired to be that way. Tonight as I type, I have sent my husband off for a boys' night out with friends. This was an act of kindness itself as I had planned for us to go to dinner and a movie together before he was invited out with friends. I spend more time with my girlfriends than he does with his, and when he received the invitation, I didn't even bat an eye and sent him out with encouragement to enjoy a daddy and spouse free evening. I hope he does enjoy himself :). My second act of kindness for the day is that I adopted a polar bear for the year. I am not quite sure what that means, but I know that I made a donation that will sustain the bear for that amount of time. I think that's kindof a cool thing! I also received a letter today from the hospital where the activity book and crayons were donated and the nurse wrote that it "made a little girls stay much more pleasant." She wrote in the card, "you make a difference." I will take those words as as continued challenge to continue to make a difference. So far this journey has been pretty remarkable. It has been interesting to get to see the results of some of my acts while I will never know how the others turn out, but still have faith that they make a difference. 338 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 26-Tea and Cleaning Up

Day 26-Because I fell asleep last night with my son before posting day 25, today I am doing two posts. Today was filled with kindness. I took on an extra task for a co-worker, problem solved a little extra on behalf of another co-worker, gave tea to a co-worker who is battling a cold and as a result of spending extra time worked a little longer today. It was worth it though to pay it forward to others. I feel fortunate to work in a place where others have friendships, look after on another and have a culture of a caring community. It is certainly a good place to spend my days. When I picked up my son from his daycare he needed to use the "potty." When we walked into the bathroom I was confronted with another act of kindness. Someone had left papertowels and trash all over the bathroom floor. I explained to my son it would be kind to clean up despite the fact that the mess was not ours. He immediately jumped in to help me and we left the space much nicer than we found it. Some days the acts of kindness are right in front of us but we are so busy we don't think that we have "time to do it." Today I made sure to slow down and complete those tasks that found their way in my path. I am learning to take my time and remember that each time I make a choice, although small it impacts other people. We are all connected in this world and universe of ours and we have a responsibility to one another. At a minimum the task is to do no harm but I challenge we should all work to do good and benefit one another. A life of benevolence is a life well lived. 339 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 25-Posted Late about a Treat

Day 25-Today is day 26 is this journey of kindness and I am a day late for posting day 25. As a result I will do two posts today. I did my act of kindness and intended to blog on yesterday evening, however I read a story to my son and laid down with him...and if you are a parent of a toddler you probably know what comes next...I fell asleep. I woke up after 1:00 a.m. and realized I was still in his room and got up and went to my bed for the remainder of the night. My act of kindness yesterday was a simple one. I had a long day at work and spent some extra time with two people with whom I work. They also had a long day, and as a result I decided they needed a treat. So I treated them both to some icecream. They both enjoyed it and I know that it made their afternoons a little nicer. When we got back to our office and I got ready to leave I overheard another co-worker telling someone, "You know a little kindness goes a long way." I definitely think she is right :). 340 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 24-Coffee Cake Take Two

Day 24-So today is day twenty four in this journey. I have been completing acts of kindness for twenty four days. It seems somewhat surreal in some ways that it has been so many days already. I am thinking at day 30 I may do some sort of a recap and total the people touched by kind acts so far...so stay tuned :). If you have been reading this blog all week then you know that I made a coffee cake for my husband to deliver on Monday and when I came downstairs noticed that it was still on the counter. Well, today it got delivered. Today the coffee cake was given to the intended recipient with no particular purpose other than as a gesture of kindness for the family for which it was created. I grew up in a family that good food is a way that we communicated love and togetherness. It was comforting and prompted time together and good memories. Although many of my acts have been random, some of the acts are more targeted. Some have an intended purpose, such as helping through a difficulty situation, while others are just meant to be kind and thoughtful in nature. Today was one of those days. I just wanted the family to know that they are appreciated and cared for and hope that they will enjoy it. Gifts are a language of love, friendship and appreciation. How often do we take for granted those around us. Worse yet, how often do we expect that they will behave a certain way. How often have I gone through my day and due to my own dysregulation or business forgot to smile, ask about someone's day or rush through an interaction. I am working to be present, mindful and appreciative. 341 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 23-Transformation for Donation

Day 23-Today is the twenty third day in my journey of kindness and I made a real sacrifice today. I scheduled an appointment several weeks ago and decided when I went in for a haircut today that I would donate my hair. My mother-in-law is a two time breast cancer survivor and a close friend of one of my friend's is battling cancer for the second time at a very young age. She recently posted a brave picture of herself with her head shaved on social media and I decided that I would donate my hair when I saw her. I talked it over with my stylist and we came up with a game plan. All in all I dontated six eight inch ponytails of hair and have a haircut that is shorter than I have had in years. Certainly it will be an adjustment and something I will have to get used to, but it feels good. The first cut of hair made me a little teary. There was a security in my long hair in a way (that probably sounds weird). While my stylist cut my hair I talked about this journey, my blog and the acts that I have done so far. She smiled and talked about doing a similar mission after the towers were bombed on 9/11. She talked about doing a random act of kindness and by the end of the day someone had done a random act of kindness for her by buying her meal at a restaurant. She talked about how awesome it was to be a part of that cycle and seeing that others were also in :). While we talked, I saw others in the salon acknowledge our missions and saw lots of smiles. I made a real sacrifice of a part of myself that I know will be used to help another person. My donation may help a woman who has lost her hair to chemotherapy feel hopeful, beautiful and more like herself. Although it was an emotional act today I feel good about my decision today. 342 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 22-A Donation for the Hospital

Day 22-Today is the twenty second day in my journey of kindness. This morning I met with an interesting challenge. I spent time yesterday evening putting together a coffee cake for my husband to deliver for one of his customers as an act of kindness, but when I came down the stairs this morning to get a cup of milk for our son I noticed the coffee cake was still sitting wrapped in plastic wrap on our kitchen counter. My husband had already left for the day and I knew, as a result of the coffee cake being left behind, that particular act of kindness would have to wait for another day. The act I had planned would not be completed today. I went into problem solving mode and decided that I would mail a package to St. Mary's hospital in Richmond instead. I had already purchased items to send but had not planned to mail them today. I worked all day and then headed to pick up my son. As I headed home I stopped by the UPS store and purchased a large envelope that I loaded with a large Hello Kitty activity and coloring book and large box of crayons. I attached a note of gratitude to the staff in the pediatric unit for providing such good care to my little one year old niece, Maddie, who was recently hospitalized with them for six days due to breathing problems. She is precious and I love her very much and am appreciative for the kind individuals who provided her with good care and nurture while in their care. I wrote on the note that I hoped that a child on the unit would enjoy the items and ask that they be donated to a hospitalized child. I know first hand how nice it is for your child to be provided with items such as these when they are hospitalized. In a way I felt like I was both paying it forward and repaying the universe at the same time. It was an interesting completion of a cycle for me. 343 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 21-Good Stewards of the Earth

Day 21-Today is the 21st day in my journey of kindness. I have been doing this for 21 days...wow! When I started this project I was unsure how it would go, but so far I am still on track for doing a kind act every single day. Several friends have joined in and have shared their own stories of kindness and I am excited about where this path is going and where it will end on day 365. Today I have run errands, which included picking up new dog wash for my Akita. She was in desparate need of a bath and brush today as she is blowing her coat and making a big puppy mess all over the house. After I bathed her, I put her collar on and latched her leash for a good walk to help her dry and to get the loose hair off of her. I tucked a whole roll of green doggy doo bags in my pocket in order to clean up after her should she need to relieve herself on the walk. As we walked through my neighborhood I noticed little bits of trash along the road. I thought about the roll of bags in pocket and pulled two off the roll. I used one like a glove and began filling the other with trash as I walked with my dog. I picked up bottles, pieces of paper, cigarette butts, pieces of plastic and anything else that I spotted along my route. I got to thinking, how often do we as people wait for someone else to do something or go by a task, knowing it needs to be done but thinking we will get to it later. I could have just stepped by the trash on the ground but with my moral compass firmly in place knew that this task was part of my journey. I thought about the impact such trash could have on the environment and animals if left to decay on the grass. I thought about the far reaching impact it might have on others if it remained in the environment rather than being picked up and taken care of. I grew up in an environmentally friendly family and we spent much time outside. We lived by the saying, "take only photographs and leave only footprints." Today I made a difference. What will you do today? 344 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 20-Old Friends

Day 20-Today is day twenty in my kindness journey. It has been a busy Saturday as I have cleaned, done laundry (still have more to do), attended a four year old's birthday party, made a new blanket for my little guy to take to daycare on Monday, and have spent time with my family. As I write this I am tired and looking forward to getting some sleep soon. I have bathed and read a bed time story to my son and my husband is helping him get to sleep. I noticed my husband today as we were out shopping helping others and being kind and felt proud of his easy way of offering assistance in a friendly manner. I was reminded that even small acts of kindness have an impact. There were several times that he could have kept walking or pretended to be too busy to help others, but instead he engaged in friendly conversation and assistance. He returned a shopping cart for a lady and her daughter and spent time chatting with a contractor who had a long day of working on a project at the shopping center. Watching him made me realize that connections with others are always present. I believe this to be true even when there is great distance and sometimes time has lapsed in friendships. Today my kind act was to send a care package to one of my roommate's from college who is expecting her first child. I don't want to give it away, as she could read my blog :), but I sent a little package of items that she might find useful during her pregnancy. I have not seen her since graduation, which will be ten years this May, but still feel a connection with her. I have kept in touch with her through social media and am hoping that we will reconnect when she relocates to the east coast. The small acts are sometimes the most important and I hope my friend Kat will appreciate the gift. Also, last night a friend of mine (sweet Jennifer) messaged me that she made a donation to her local animal shelther to help pay for a lifesaving surgery for a small kitten who had been found with a rubberband around its neck. Kindness is everywhere! 345 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 19-Redbox

Day 19-Today is the nineteenth day of completing acts of kindness for others. Today has been a busy day and while I have intereacted with others throughout the day, by this evening had not yet completed my act for the day. I spent the majority of the day today home with my son who had surgery yesterday. I watched a beautiful and challenging documentary on Netflix during his nap time called, "Dear Zachary", and if you have a chance...watch it and do something in your own community. Also, you'll need a box of tissues handy. This got me to thinking about movies in general. I decided on my way home, realizing that it is Friday, to make a donation to a local Redbox to pay for someone's or a family's movie for their enjoyment this evening. I loaded an envelope with changed and wrote on the outside of the envelope "Enjoy a movie on me" and taped it to the Redbox kiosk. Of course, I do not know who will go to the Redbox this evening, find the money taped to the machine and have the cost of their movie offset for them, but I hope that they will enjoy it and will choose to pay it forward. My sister also contacted me today with an idea for donations to be sent to the hospital that is treating her one year old for breathing problems. She postulated that crayons and coloring books may be well received by the staff to share with children being treated in the unit. Perhaps I can get this together for my act tomorrow. 346 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 18-Breakfast and Blue Cars

Day 18-Today is day 18 in this journey of mine. Today, my son had to have a minor surgery to have the tubes in his ears removed and after a long day yesterday I was feeling very tired as we also had to get up very early this morning to be at the surgery center on time. After the procedure was completed he asked me if we could get pancakes on the way home. I usually make pancakes from my PawPaw's recipe at home, but decided this morning, being very tired, to go through the drive-thru and pick some up and get myself a large coffee. As I pulled through the drive-thru I noticed a blue car behind me. When I paid for my breakfast, I asked the cashier to use my card to pay for the next person behind me saying, "Go ahead and charge me for hers too and tell her I said to have a great day on me!" The cashier looked more tired than I felt and gave little response to my request, but was amenable to my request. As I pulled forward I saw in my mirror the lady in the blue car behind me prepare her payment only to be met with the receipt from the cashier instead. I watched the exchange as the cashier explained to her that her meal had been taken care of and she looked at me, gave a huge smile, waved and mouthed, "Thank you!" I waved back and said, "have a great day" and I hope she did. I began to wonder how often I was just walking through life consumed by my own tired feelings or worry before beginning this journey of so much sacrifice and care. I know that by the end of this journey, my life will be forever changed. Get active...don't just think it...do it. Put aside the excuses and worries and make a difference. I assure you, a little bit goes a long way. 347 more days of kindness...are you in?

Day 17-A Long Day

Day 17-So others are starting to get in on the act of kindness. A friend of mine cleaned his mother's living room as a gesture of kindness and love yesterday. This was a sacrifice as he is a husband, father and full time employee. Another friend payed for a set of tired travelers at a local Applebee's having a note of kindness delivered to their table at the end of the meal rather than a bill. I am sure they were surprised! Wow! This thing is really taking off! Today was a long day for me, as you can probably tell by the lateness of this post. Some days as a working mother my days feel incredibly long and busy, but now that I am on this journey I am trying to rush less, pay more attention and look for others to help each day in a special way. I had to go back to the office late this evening and decided that I would do an act of kindness for some second shift co-workers. I used to work the shift regularly that they are on and it is a difficult one given the planning, patience and energy required to sustain the programming for which they are responsible. As a result, I thought to myself, "maybe they could use a pick me up." Sometimes we go through our days and forget to thank those with whom we interact every day. I could not do what I do successfully without the support and teamwork of these special individuals and I am eternally grateful for all that they do. I found myself turning into Kroger on my way to the office and decided to purchase some refrigerator packs of soda for these hard working folks as a pick me up and tangible "thank you" for the service that they provide every day. When I walked into the work area with the drinks I was greeted with a smile and heartfelt thank you for the package. I hope every day I remind them how important, special and valuable they are...I try to anyway :). 348 more days of kindness...are you in? If you are in...tell me how and I'll share your story!

Day 16-The Flu and Others Join In

Day 16-Today is the sixteenth day on my journey of kindness. My journey of kindness is to impact others in my own community, around the counry and across the world. So far, my acts have impacted those with whom I interact every day and also those across the world (soccer balls that I donated). Some of my kindness recipients have been known to me and others were strangers. Today my act of kindness was for a family member. In particular, it was for my mother. The flu is going around my community in a serious way and she, unfortunately, feel victim to it at the end of the weekend. When I spoke with her on the phone yesterday afternoon she sounded terrible. I thought of all the times she had taken care of me as a child. I thought of chicken noodle soup, grilled cheese sandwiches, movies, and nurturing care. I decided that I would make a casserole and take it to her this morning to help with meals for both her and my stepfather. Last night I told my son what I was doing and wondered with him if he might like to share some of the delicious gingerbread he and I made together over the weekend. I saw his face and he was hesitant. He has loved gnoshing on the bread and was a little reluctant to part with even a small morsel. After we talked about it, he decided it might help his Nana and Papa feel better and he allowed me to package up several pieces to include in the package of food. I got up and left for work this morning with the casserole and gingerbread. I did not go into the house with them, as I did not want to expose myself or my family to the flu virus, but left the dishes on the porch just outside the front door and let my mother know I brought the items to her. I hope in some way this act provides for their comfort and rest today. I don't want to overlook those closest to me while I am on this journey and want to make sure I offer kindness within my family as well. Interestingly, I noticed on my FaceBook page that two friends, a former co-worker and a colleague with whom I went to graduate school, are getting in on the kindness action with both completing their first act of kindness today. I hope they will keep me posted so that I can share their acts of kindness with you all as well! 349 more days of kindness...are you in?